5 Important Lessons I Learned About Self-Care During Postpartum

Postpartum life taught me 5 essential self-care lessons, from embracing rest to seeking support. These insights transformed how I prioritize wellness while navigating motherhood.

Motherhood is life-altering, and sometimes I think about just how much everything has changed since giving birth eight months ago. My time with my baby daughter has been filled with milestones, cute and unforgettable moments, and joy. However, I’ve also experienced many moments of pain, and mental distress, and overcame many postpartum challenges, especially when it comes to self-care. In the weeks and months after giving birth, I found myself navigating the demands of a newborn and the need to take care of myself in entirely new ways. Here are five invaluable self-care lessons I’ve learned postpartum, especially as a working mother. 

Postpartum Self-Care

I’m sure that it wouldn’t surprise you to learn that most women experience a decrease in the level of dedication to self-care during postpartum. According to a 1990 in Nursing Research, “at six months postpartum, over 80% of the women had not yet fully resumed usual self-care activities. Less impressive were the 6%, 20%, and 30% of women who had not fully resumed desired or usual levels of infant care household activities and social and community activities, respectively (Tulman et al. 1990).” It’s safe to assume that for the majority of new mothers, the idea of self-care changes, and sometimes even becomes nonexistent in some cases.

However, recent studies on mental health in the postpartum period show that women who don’t spend a little time practicing self-care are prone to experiencing postpartum depression, which when untreated can eventually become psychosis. Luckily, I had many people on my side who forced me to take time for myself, but not before I succumbed to the depression myself. 

Without those moments of self-care, breaks, or even times to socialize and have fun, I don’t know how I could take care of my wonderful daughter, which is what led me to publish this article after so many months of being on a hiatus. Motherhood should never come at the cost of your mental sanity. In fact, you cannot be a good mom if you don’t know how to take care of yourself. 

If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?

RuPaul

So, with that said. I’ve learned so much about self-care over these last eight months, and I really want to share these lessons with you. So here, they are. 

5 Ways I Learned How To Practice Self-Care Postpartum

1. Rest is Not a Luxury—It’s a Necessity

Before becoming a mom, I had this unrealistic expectation that I could “push through” exhaustion. So much so, that I was heavily against taking naps during the day, even if I really needed one. But, since having the baby, I’ve learned how wrong I am. Between sleepless nights and round-the-clock feedings, I learned the hard way that rest isn’t optional. Even short power naps or moments of stillness can make a world of difference. Prioritizing rest isn’t about being lazy; it’s about ensuring I have the energy to care for both my baby and myself.

2. Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength

During the early days, I felt a pressure to “do it all.” But I quickly realized that trying to handle everything on my own only led to burnout. Asking for help—whether from a partner, family member, or friend—was one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done. Accepting support allowed me to take breaks, focus on my recovery, and be present for my baby without feeling overwhelmed.

3. Self-Care Looks Different Now

Self-care used to mean long yoga days, lounging on the couch,  or long workouts at the gym. Postpartum, I’ve had to redefine what self-care looks like for me. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking a long shower, drinking a hot cup of tea, or spending five minutes journaling. The key has been recognizing that small, intentional acts of self-care are just as impactful as grand gestures. Being a moom, has showed me why self-care is so important for us, even if it’s for 30 seconds.

4. Body Positivity Takes Patience

Pregnancy and childbirth bring incredible changes to your body. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t struggle with my postpartum body at first. But I’ve learned to show myself grace and gratitude for what my body has done. Focusing on what my body has accomplished rather than how it looks has been a powerful shift. Celebrating small milestones—like taking my first postpartum walk or feeling stronger day by day—has helped me rebuild confidence and appreciation for myself.

5. Emotional Wellness is Just as Important as Physical Health

Postpartum hormones are no joke, and navigating the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood can be tough. I’ve learned to prioritize my mental health just as much as my physical health. Whether it’s through therapy, meditation, or simply talking to someone I trust, tending to my emotional wellness has been vital. Acknowledging my feelings and permitting myself to not always feel okay has been an essential part of my self-care journey.

Final Thoughts

The postpartum period has been a time of immense growth and learning for me. It’s taught me to be kinder to myself, to embrace the imperfections, and to prioritize self-care in ways I never had before. While the journey hasn’t always been easy, these lessons have made me a stronger, more resilient version of myself. If there’s one thing I’d like every new mom to know, it’s this: Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential. By prioritizing your well-being, you’re not only helping yourself but also creating a healthier, happier environment for your little one.